Life has a tendency to make left turns, go up and down, and make you feel as if something is wrong. More often than not, it is life telling you to make adjustments because you just aren’t ready to receive the full blessing that is in store for you. A lot of the time, this adjustment should start within, and not in your environment. When life starts to go down, people tend to cut off those around them because they are distractions or because they aren’t helping them succeed. The best thing to do is ask yourself what you could do to improve your current situation, what you need FIRST, then look to cut off your friends.
Bad habits are the leading cause of failures and they stunt your growth. Everyone has heard the phrase “practice makes perfect” , well this phrase unfortunately works with bad habits too. Bad habits are hard to break, and it doesn’t help when you have friends who also have bad habits that antagonize your own. It is easy to fall into bad habits and even harder to break them when your environment is full of them, however, it isn’t wise to blame them. Blaming outside factors for the things that you can control is a bad habit in itself and perpetuates underlying bad habits. Take the initiative to learn yourself and apply your understanding of how you feel and behave into something better.
You don’t have to cut your friends off to work on yourself, and truthfully, good friends would even try to help you any way they can. The best way to start to change habits, or even just things that are bothering you is to speak up, address it, acknowledge it. Closed mouths don’t get fed and keeping your frustrations and struggles bottled up is detrimental to your perspective on what around you is really going on. When you speak up, you allow others to do the same and they may just tell you what is wrong with things you do, things that you might not have seen as a problem before. This openness allows for growth and the beginning of a change.
Growing doesn’t mean you have to leave your friends behind, instead this serves as a great opportunity to change things about yourself while growing with your friends. The feeling you have about things not going right is probably the same feeling your friends have about their own life. Be the first person to start working on yourself and trying to be better and they might just see you doing good and follow suit. Alongside the growth and the help you or your friends may offer, the fact that you are all growing together is what molds stronger friendships and solidifies strong bonds. So, it is best for you and those close to you that you focus more so on cutting off bad habits rather than focusing on cutting off friends.
To clarify, this doesn’t mean no friends ever need to be cut off. We just encourage everyone to not be quick to blame others, and know themselves and what they need enough before they cutting off relationships and people that love them.
